When choosing myself makes me the villain

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Villain

For the longest time, I believed that happiness was something you had to earn. I used to think that putting myself last was a form of love.

That if I gave more, sacrificed more, and said “yes” more often, people would see me as kind, loyal, good.

And for a while, they did.

But deep down, I was slowly disappearing. I ignored the things I wanted. I pushed my needs aside. I convinced myself that my happiness could wait—that it wasn’t urgent, that it wasn’t important.

Then, one day, I snapped. I just started saying “no.” I started choosing the things that made me feel like myself again. I started asking, “What do I want? What do I need?”

And suddenly, I was the problem.

People started acting different. The same ones I had shown up for, time and time again, called me distant. Cold. Selfish. All because I stopped running on empty for them.

But what they don’t know is how much I suffered in silence. How many times have I swallowed my feelings just to keep the peace. They didn’t see the version of me that begged myself to hold on just a little longer, to keep giving even when there was nothing left.

They never saw what it cost me to always be the one who cared more.

So when I finally chose myself, it wasn’t selfish. It was survival.

I had to remind myself—over and over—that I deserve happiness. I deserve rest. I deserve to be proud of how I live my life, even if others don’t get it. Even if it makes some people uncomfortable.

Because the truth is..

People get used to your self-neglect when it benefits them. And when you stop, they don’t call it growth. They call it attitude.

But I’m not here to live a life where everyone else is happy except me.

So no, I’m not selfish. I’m just tired of betraying myself to please everyone else. I’m choosing peace, healing, and boundaries—and if that makes me the villain in someone else’s story, then so be it.

I’m finally choosing to be the hero in mine

Source:Medium/shelvedhope

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