If you are the ocean, don’t turn yourself into a ditch just because someone isn’t capable of diving into you.

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I came across these words on my Instagram FYP, and they made me question myself. For a long time, I have often made myself recede shrinking who I am just to allow someone to stay and feel comfortable beside me. I gave too much access, too much time, and played nice simply to make someone remain.

Then I remembered: I don’t need to become water just because the fire within me burns someone.

People who are genuinely sincere and have good intentions to be in your life will not waver. They will not force you to become someone else, and they will never make you feel like you are never enough to be someone they long for.

Yesterday, I read a book titled The Strength in Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino. It said that one day, you will find someone who gently tears down your walls. One day, you will find someone who looks into you into your darkest version, your wounds, your storms, your fire and you will expect them to leave once they hear about the bad things you have done. But they stay. They choose you. They continue to love you anyway.

Those words made my eyes burn and release clear crystal drops. Because, honestly, I never really believed that truth.

Somehow, I became the very person who shattered my own hope of finding someone who would gladly accept me as I am. Then I remembered: people are allowed to leave, to stay, to like you, or to hate you. That is their right it is their business. Whatever they do has nothing to do with you. So I don’t need to feel like I am lacking just because someone doesn’t choose me or doesn’t find me attractive or beautiful. It’s not my business. Because I cannot control anyone.

So for now, I keep reminding myself over and over again: whatever people think, it’s not my job to fix it, and it’s not my business to prove them wrong. Just because someone thinks I am not enough doesn’t mean they are right, and it certainly doesn’t define who I am.

Hell, you know nothing about other people yet you think you know them so well. Sometimes, you don’t even fully know yourself. So I think it’s better to let other people mind their own business and allow yourself to do the same.

Your worth will not decrease just because someone thinks you might not even be on their list to date.

Source: Medium/julia

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