You will never feel enough if you always compare yourself to other people

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Instead, you can decide what enough means for you.

Back then, in my life, I never felt enough until I turned 17. I always felt like I wasn’t enough, wasn’t beautiful, and when someone didn’t like me, I thought it made sense because I didn’t love myself either. I had so many flaws. It’s funny to think that someone would run away just because they knew my shortcomings.

You know there will always be someone more beautiful than you, wealthier than you, richer than you, more handsome, smarter, or nicer than you. The comparisons will never stop unless you decide to stop them. In this life, there will always be people whose lives look more luxurious and glorious than ours. If we keep comparing, we’ll always find someone to add to the list, right?

But what if enough is something we can decide for ourselves? Something we can choose to feel and acknowledge.

For example, I was really afraid to show my face on TikTok because I thought I wouldn’t meet TikTok’s beauty standards. My FYP is filled with beautiful girls and handsome boys, and I didn’t feel enough especially about my appearance.

But you know what? Beauty is relative. Intelligence is something you can develop. And opportunities? You can have them too you just need courage.

Now I understand that my beauty is relative. I am a different person to different people. Maybe to some, I am very beautiful I can see it in their eyes when they admire me. To many others, I’m just ordinary, normal, human. And to some, I might not even be on their list to date. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with me if someone doesn’t like me.

Not everyone can like you just like you don’t like everyone either. And that’s perfectly fine.

Right now, I’m trying my best to learn languages on my own. I want to master the international languages recognized by the UN. I think it will benefit my career and my relationships with other people. When I imagine being able to understand what people from different cultures are saying, it feels incredible. There are so many languages in the world more than a hundred so mastering six doesn’t feel unreasonable, even though it isn’t easy.

Even though I can speak English, I still try to maintain it while learning a new language. I combine them by listening to explanations in English. It’s not always easy. And I can’t tell you which language I’m learning yet it’s still a secret until I can actually speak it.

While trying my best, I often felt stressed and stuck. There were so many resources, but I didn’t know which ones to choose. Nothing felt simple or logical enough to help me speak quickly. I drained myself by forcing too much in one day writing, pronunciation, vowels, consonants all at once. That was a mistake.

I’d wake up from a nap and think, “What a beautiful life,” knowing I had to study that language again. I studied before sleeping, after waking up, until dawn. It didn’t suit me. I get drained easily and felt like giving up.

I kept adjusting my to-do list to match myself better, but I still felt stuck. I was confused should I start with writing? Pronunciation? Grammar? Then I tried learning through songs. Honestly, it was boring. I searched for common phrases in songs and children’s conversations. It helped, but I still felt bored.

Then I found an app similar to Duolingo and it worked better for me. I went back to the basics: pronouns, greetings, introductions. Simple things.

Still, I didn’t feel enough. I felt like I wasn’t making progress until I remembered something important: I can decide what enough means for me.

So I adjusted my to-do list again and focused on being just 1% better than yesterday. I told myself that was okay. At least I learned something. At least I didn’t give up.

When I could finally say hello, sorry, goodbye, what’s your name, and write simple pronouns I felt incredibly proud of myself.

Small progress isn’t bad at all.

Because I kept going, even when I didn’t feel like it. And slowly, it got better. Sometimes I still push myself too hard but I can always decide what enough means for me.

Source:Medium/julia

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